A Leap of Faith

The following rather neat equation has come to me this morning - AWARENESS + ACCEPTANCE = TRANSFORMATION.

You can only transform what you are aware of, and only if you accept and go ‘through’ what it is you want to change. It doesn’t happen if you resist, deny or reject what’s unwanted. And if you want greater transformation, you need to aim for increasing your awareness - so be open to learn more about yourself, with the intention of loving yourself no matter what you discover.

And of course the greatest thing you can do for yourself is just accept yourself as you are, with or without great awareness or transformation. How you are right now is more than good enough. Feeling no need to transform may be your greatest transformation yet!

A couple of months back I decided to look at my circle of friends & acquaintances, what would be my community & support network. I wanted to assess where I was putting my energy, to see whether I was investing in the connections that I was most inspired by. It seemed I wasn’t.

So I made a list of the contacts that I most admired, respected and was inspired by, and who supported my growth & expansion, with the intention to invest most energy in nurturing these connections.

Without really giving it much attention, just having that intention, the quality of my interactions and social time has increased dramatically. Like my social horizons have suddenly expanded, allowing in amazing friendships - upgrading old ones and attracting new ones.

I cannot emphasise the shift in quality enough. My quality of life has significantly increased and connecting with the outside world is so much richer and more rewarding… Such a noticeable change, simply from looking at who I connect with and what energy is invested where…

It’s a simple ‘housekeeping’ exercise… What do you most value? Who do you most respect? Who inspires you? And what type of connections do you spend most time nurturing? How do they make you feel?

Been working a lot recently with Yes, No & Maybe. At first with relation to connections with others, but now seeing how much it features in other aspects of life. Like today, shopping! Why would I want to invest in something I only like, when I know I could have something I love. For me I’d rather wait, but often feel the pressure to turn a Maybe into a Yes.

I’ve come to the conclusion that Yes and No are absolutes, with everything in between being a Maybe. Therefore a true Yes or No are unquestionably clear, and often known instantly without need for a ‘decision’. Not, erm.. err… yes, I think so. That’s still a Maybe. Think of Maybe as a line of indeterminable length, that you walk along, perhaps back and forth, rather than a fence that you sit on. Yes and No are the points at either end, and everything along the line itself is tentative. 

Unfortunately in our society Maybe isn’t terribly popular, and uncertainty is often frowned upon as being flaky. But if you can be clear about your Maybe, with yourself and others, you can be solid in your uncertainty. And then you, and your Maybe, can command much respect.

In certain scenarios this is difficult, but if the opportunity is there then be true to yourself. Recognise that Maybe fluctuates, and so you can remain open to change. If and when your Maybe becomes an absolute Yes or No, the energy behind it is much more powerful than a Yes or No that isn’t certain. Both you and others will notice the difference when you’re being absolute. So where you can, be really honest with yourself and stand strong in your fluid uncertainty. And see what effect this has on the quality of your interactions and relationships.